Answer 2: Yes

Are there any perfect people? Of course, the answer is no. So I think that’s it is self-confusing to wonder whether your perfect mate is out there. All in all, I know what the question really means: is there one person out there meant specifically for me? To this I say yes…I do believe that most people are meant to be with one person. Is this the reality though? Of course not - not everyone stays married to the same person all their life or are they blessed with a mate that outlives them. And everyone does not have the calling or desire TO get married or be with a partner (i.e. the Pope, nuns, some missionaries, any other completely vocation-focused individual, etc). But the majority of us want and long for the companionship, love, friendship, intimacy, and partnership that comes with the mate that’s meant for us. And I think that we were designed to be committed to that one person (if we marry them) for the rest of our lives. Does this play out these days that people stay with each other for a life-time? No, but people also don’t get married for the right reasons, stay committed to the person and vows, or are ready when they do go to the alter. But it’s because of our own lack of character, wealth of immaturity and mishandling that marriage/love experience such a low success rate. It’s not the fault of the institutions though.

As someone who believes that life has purpose and is not just a random set of events, I do believe that we are meant to be with one person for our lives. But it’s not because we or our partner is necessarily “perfect.” Overall, you fit each other emotionally, psychologically, intellectually, spiritually; you compliment each other, make up for each other’s weaknesses, you help and support each other, and you LOVE the person beneath it all. But it’s not the perfection of the match so much as it is the nature of the commitment. Dr. Terrence Real speaks of this: “The character of the union is determined by how the two partners manage both aspects of love – the getting and the not getting.” Partnership doesn’t always play out like a fairy-tale or the perfect romance story, but doesn’t mean it’s not meant to happen or possible. Real love and romance are very real and important elements in a relationship, but they can’t be expected to just occur without help and nurturing. With a little work and patience though, we can achieve that more perfect union we’ve always dreamed about. And if someone is willing to do that, I think they can set their sights on being with that one “perfect” mate for the rest of their lives.