"...But in that casket--safe, dark, motionless, airless--it [your heart] will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.”
So ...if your heart has been placed in your "casket"--or lockbox, if you will!-- C.S. is claiming it will become what we assume to be as "unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable." But that is merely an optimistic and romantic assumption or ideal. All lovers want to believe that their hearts will never be broken, that their love will never be lost with their current partner, that the person they are with will be around forever.
But the reality is.... even in those "perfect relationships" with the "perfect partner" and the "love of our lives", even when one's love is devout and we are certain that love will never be lost, it happens. Maybe the hearts we hold in a casket are unbreakable, maybe the hearts we hold in a casket are impenetrable, but our hearts cannot control those of our partners. Love's direction is as uncertain as a kite in the wind. It doesn't take much of a shift to alter it's course. Be as committed as you like, love like you never thought you could love, but beware, because there is no amount of love you can hold in your heart, in your casket, that can assure that your partner's heart will remain in sync with yours.
People in love get burned all the time by cheating partners, and guess what, you so-called inpenetrable heart indeed gets broken. On the positive side of this argument though...I guess there are those who's hearts remain unredeemable, undeterred, unwavering even in the face of that broken heartedness. What then?
So I say to you, and C.S., knock yourselves out. Put your heart into a casket, but don't assume that casket will never be penetrated or you are kidding yourselves. All hearts get broken--even in the best of relationships. The issue is, can you repair that heart? Some say yes, but it willl take time, lots of time, and pain. So, back to my original QUESTION: Is that pain really worth it?
I would choose instead to live every day like it were my last. I would choose to live every day allowing my heart to know what it wants and not standing in the way of its progress. I would choose to live every day from this point forward like my partner, my relationship, my love, and the love of my partner is on the line. I would never again leave my heart's fortress (casket) vulnerable. I would always assure its security by proactively working to improve its integrity.
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